Picture a confident person – what do they do?
How to overcome a lack of confidence
Picture a confident person – what do they do? Chances are you’ll picture someone walking into a room and everyone wants to talk to them – what do they do differently to you? Maybe they stand up straight and tall, smile, make eye contact and say the first hello. None of this is a big secret, it’s all about making an effort.
First you need to identify the areas where you lack confidence and tackle them one at a time. Maybe it’s a lack of belief in your own ability and what you can/can’t do but you need to turn each thing into a positive and make a list of the things you can do.
Maybe you’re confident in yourself and with friends, but in a work environment or in a situation where you meet new people, you freeze and don’t know what to do or say.
To get over those initial nerves, you might want to try some of these top tips;
For some people, clothes can be a great confidence boost, with others it’s a new haircut or makeup – find out what makes you walk a bit taller and smile more, and then do more of it.
Start to keep a journal of things you have achieved, they can be tiny things as well as things like graduating, or compliments and positive feedback that you have received. Try and find something positive every day - read it and remind yourself of your successes. This all gives a feeling of wellbeing and confidence.
When you really need to feel confident is when you’ve been invited for an interview - and suddenly you panic! Don’t! Remember the wonderful tips that you followed from the mybrink guide to create your amazing CV – as well as the content of your application form. Well they have won you an interview - congratulations! Remember that and be proud.
If you get nervous in interview situations then ask a friend to practice with you; find more tips in the mybrink guide on how to prepare for interview.
Just remember - when you get to an interview and you’re feeling shy, it’s not a test – it’s an opportunity for you to find out about the job you’ve applied for and the company can find out more about you.
The biggest thing to do is to change your mindset to a ‘can do’ attitude – be positive about yourself and it will make a difference to how other people see you and how you will see yourself. If you are really struggling and avoiding situations because of a lack of confidence then it might be worth getting some career coaching or taking part in a mindset course.
Take control and believe in yourself.
From the mybrink team, good luck!